Etiquette for visiting a Hong Kong family in mourning
My girlfriend whose family hails from Hong Kong has recently lost her grandfather, and her family is in a period of mourning. Being an "outsider" of the family, how should I act/behave when visiting her family?
I'm aware there are certain rules to follow, but i'm just not sure where I stand in case I offend them (i've heard of some families being insulted by "outsiders" taking part in business that has nothing to do with them).
I just want to help them get through this tough loss, and be as respectful as possible. I've googled around but I am sure there is something I am missing. I wasn't sure whether or not to bring roses (valentines day), or if we can still celebrate her birthday (she said we might not be allowed).
Sorry if this is question is posted in the wrong place.
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What can you not do during Chinese mourning?
Within 100 days of their passing: Avoid wearing bright coloured clothing and refrain from attending weddings, celebratory events or funeral wakes of friends or acquaintances.How do you express condolences to a Chinese family?
Typical condolences messages like 'I'm sorry for your loss', and 'My thoughts are with you during this time' are quite safe. In Chinese, you can say something like 'jie ai shun bian'. Apart from the actual condolence wishes, you might find yourself having the opportunity to chat with the deceased family members.What is the etiquette for mourning?
Refer to the deceased by name, and acknowledge his or her life. Offer to help the person/family in any way (the more specific the better), and if they want help, follow through. Send flowers with a note (see suggestions for notes below) or offer a donation to a charity or an appropriate research organization.How do you show respect in Hong Kong?
Hong Kong Society & Culture You give someone face by complimenting them, showing them respect, or doing anything that increases their self-esteem. Such actions must be done with the utmost sincerity. Doing them in a patronizing manner causes both parties to lose face.One Way Ticket Out Of Hong Kong: Our Family's Journey | One Way - Part 1 | CNA Documentary
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